I was walking to Bart from work a few days ago, I nice man yelled out to me “You have beautiful hair!” So I smiled and said thank you. Not so far from him was a group of 3 young non-ethnic women. As soon as the man gave me the compliment, the three girls looked up at me and immediately begin to snicker and then laughed out loud at me.
In the past, something like this would have hurt me. But (even though I still have my insecurities) I am older and wiser now. A little part of me wished that I had walked up to them and asked: Are you racist? Or are you just being a bunch of b*thces? But I am beyond that. They were obviously young and immature. Still living with the mentality that their beauty is the only beauty. But life has evolved for me. I am will never go back to that reality. So I feel sorry for these three young ladies that could not step outside of their box long enough to see that beauty comes in all shades, shapes and forms.
They're either too stupid to realize that not everyone looks the same or they just ignorant of other cultures. They're just jealous b/c they prolly look like every other person out there(plain, boring). and they see ur creativity and ur beautiful locs and b/c theyre too scared to wear it themselves and jealous that that man gave YOU a compliment and NOT them, they wanna laugh it off.
ReplyDeleteWell said! I agree wholeheartedly... :-). If they had confidence in themselves, there would be no need for the cattiness.
ReplyDeleteYou know I think that they probably do think locs are weird because they are just as you say: Young and ignorant. All that they perceive as beautiful are images they see on TV in videos. They are still learning about life and the fact that you did not stoop down to their level speaks to them in so many different ways. As they grow older and hopefully wiser, they will see what idiots they were towards you.
ReplyDeleteThank you!!
ReplyDeleteI hope my daughter will have the same confidence when she grows up with her natural hair.
ReplyDelete(mom of biracial girl)
Continue to encourage her and remind her that she is beautiful the way she is. She doesn't need to fit in to any group to be a beautiful, strong and successful young lady. My daughters are also multi-cultural, and I always let them know that they perfect as they are. For any child, of any race - there is no need for chemicals (to alter hair texture), fancy clothes or any other superfical things. They are amazing as they are.
ReplyDeleteKaren
"Non-ethnic" people have no sense of what true beauty is (generally speaking). They've convinced themselves that their dead hair & their "beauty" is above ours, in order to compensate for the deep sense of inferiority that dwells within the depths of themselves. You are beautiful, your hair is beautiful. I'm glad you know this. I don't have locs, but I wear my hair natural. I get the meanest looks and such. It's great to connect with sistahs who have broken out of the conditioning and rejected the Eurocentric ideal of beauty. Peace, Love and Elevation.
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