Showing posts with label Dating Adventures. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Dating Adventures. Show all posts

Tuesday, August 22, 2017

'Stashing' is the newest way to get screwed over in love

I found this interesting article on Yahoo news today that is both funny, full of truths and amusing.  Dating, for me, has always been a love-hate thing.  I enjoy getting out and meeting new people, but it can be exhausting.  Between trying to find someone that you have chemistry with, similar interest and life goals...is often a tall order.
 
Because I am a busy mommy, work full time and try to have a regular workout routine - finding time to get out and meet someone new is often difficult. Although I am very open to meeting someone when I do get out, I have and do use online dating. 
 
The article below, hits on a lot of things that I have experienced will online dating - dating fishing, breadcrumbing, stashing (girl... move on, ha ha), kittenfishing, catfising and ghosting! These terms are all explained below or linked to an explanation.  So if I have been through all of this, why o why do I continue to do the online dating thing. I ask myself this question all the time.  I have often deleted online my dating app... and then get back on out of sheer boredom. But who knows, maybe if I keep my heart open, one day I will meet my match.  
 
Read this great article below, on what to look out for when dating -
 
'Stashing' is the newest way to get screwed over in love
By Cassie Murdoch
 
Feel like your new romance features a little bit too much alone time? You might have been stashed.
What now? Meet “stashing,” the newest relationship term to strike fear into our hearts. We’ve already been victims of “kittenfishing,” “breadcrumbing,” “gatsybying,” “haunting,” and, of course, the ubiquitous “ghosting.” And now we’ve got this to worry about.
 
Stashing, as the Metro reports, is that thing where you’re in a new relationship and everything seems great, except for one thing — you’ve never met any of your new love’s friends or family.   You’ve let this person fully into your life, but they haven’t even so much as acknowledged your existence on social media or introduced you to one of their pals. Uh oh, you’ve been stashed.  Basically you're being kept a secret for one reason or another, like a little treasure stashed away in an underwear drawer. Ugh. 
 
When you press your partner about it, they’ll try to wriggle out of having to explain. Sorry to say, but they’re probably already in a relationship with someone else or have some other dark secret to hide.
The good news is that “stashing” is just a new name for something that people have been doing since the beginning of time. So this isn’t some new horror brought on by dating apps or Instagram. Still, it’s no fun. But don’t take it personally. It doesn’t mean they find you too embarrassing to share with their nearest and dearest; it means they’re a liar. And the sooner you can un-stash yourself the better. 
 
Too see more of my blog stories about dating, click here.

Thursday, April 30, 2015

Adventures in Dating: Single & 40


So here I am, newly 40 and now single again.  My last relationship ended on good terms - thank goodness. But it was definitely a loss.  If I think back to my 20's, did I ever imagine that at this point in my life, that I would be looking to date?  Hell no... ha ha.  But that's my reality now.

So maybe your wondering why am I talking about dating on a natural hair blog??   Well because there are so many women out there that are single later in life, and having to deal with starting over. That it's worth talking about. Dating is exciting, exhausting, painful, stressful and fun all at the same time.  And how is this possible?? Well it's kind of like being on a roller coaster. There are a lot of emotional ups and downs.  But I think with dating - all the disappointments you may experience make it that more special when you actually do find the guy that is the perfect match for you.

I have been single for 7 months... but it feels like it has been forever.  Dating has been a challenge.  Especially for someone like myself that is not to good with picking up clues when it comes to flirting. I can be a bit shy and don't always catch the clues that guys may give me that they want to talk or are interested.  So unless someone actually comes up to me and says hello - I may never connect with that person. And I don't exactly have the most exciting social life.  Not really into bars or clubs. So what is a girl to do? 

Well fortunately and unfortunately there is internet dating. I have not had a very good experience so far... ha ha.  Lots of bad communication, guys that want booty calls, catfishing, etc...  I also think
when people are trying to match through the internet, there is so much that is missing. It's very impersonal, you can't feel the vibe of the person, see their facial expressions, etc.  Although I am still on a couple of dating sites - I think I need to broaden my options for meeting people.  So tomorrow is my first meetup singles group get together.  Something that is laid back, not to much pressure. Just to get out and have some fun. I hope I don't sound lame lol.  But hey, I am a single mom with my own business and limited time.  So if I need to go to a meetup event for singles, to start meeting new people, that's what I am going to do.  

I look forward to writing more about my dating adventures (as well as beauty and hair topics).  And I would love to hear from all of you natural beauties about your dating experiences.  Whether you are single, in a new relationship, in a long term relationship or married - if you have a stories to share, email me at Naturalgirlsunited@gmail.com.